Getting a divorce is a life altering experience. Whether you are just separated and about to begin proceedings, or have already signed the papers, there is a life transition period here. This is a time when you need support to get through each day. It is a period where you will be emotionally vulnerable, swinging from great highs to deep lows. A sense of overwhelm is common as is the panic that you feel at the undefined future that faces you. When there are children involved, this emotional roller coaster ride can be even scarier. You need help to get through this.

You may have already noticed that your regular friends, who knew you as a couple, may have gone silent on you. They don’t respond to your texts, even though they have read them. If you happen to bump into them in a public area, they are unable to speak much and behave awkwardly. In short, these people don’t know how to react to you and are definitely not going to be around to help you get through what can be one of the toughest transitions in your life.

This means that you must look for new people to become your support system. Yes, having a few new good friends will help you tremendously. Yet, at this stage in your life transition it can be difficult to attract and make friends who are sensible and supportive. Instead, your worries about the life crisis that you are facing may emotionally swamp you completely. This is the ideal time to look for a Divorce Life Coach

Who is a Divorce Life Coach?

A professionally trained and certified person who can help you with your mental health issues. A Life Coach is not a therapist, but a mentor and a friend who will help you create the life roadmap that you wish to take ahead. This person does not have any vested interest in your family life. They are able to come in with a fresh perspective, and work on the issues you are facing. The solutions they suggest keep your best interests in mind. They work for you, not for the greater good.

Going through a divorce is an isolating time. To have one person whom you can depend on unconditionally is a huge advantage. Especially when you don’t want to burden your family and close ones with the emotional upheaval that you are going through. Having a Divorce Life Coach allows you to learn how to reframe the chaos that has slid into your life. It gives you back a semblance of control and you can reclaim your own power. This can be a huge deal for your own peace of mind.

How Does a Divorce Life Coach Help?

The Divorce Life Coaches all have their own areas of expertise. Some of these include ensuring that you get your legal paperwork sorted, having a co-parenting plan put into place, helping children deal with the fall out of the separation, creating a routine that works for you in the new reality that you face, and much more. The Divorce Life Coach can bring to your attention out of the box decision making skills that allow you to ask your lawyer intelligent and relevant questions. They may even help you find a good lawyer at a reasonable rate through their contacts.

Some Divorce Life Coaches work on the practical day to day activities that you need to focus on to get through the legal process of the divorce. Others may help you through and after the event to gain a better understanding of your own emotional and physical health. They may help you heal by beginning to focus on activities and exercises that improve your self love quotient. They may take you through meditations, or give you art exercise which allow you to think through where you are coming from and where you are headed in your life in the future.

How Do You Find a Good Divorce Life Coach?

You need to do some research to find a person who is the right fit for you. As many of them offer a free first session, take them up on it. This may be well worth speaking to more than one person before you narrow down and pick one. Remember that even if a close friend has recommended a person to you, your personality may not be a good fit for that particular Divorce Life Coach. You should find a person whom you feel comfortable opening up to. Their formal qualifications aside, you should get a positive and uplifting vibe from them.

When you have a conversation, you should feel heard and understood. Being with them should make you feel safe and supported. Also keep in mind that they are simply a facilitator to your life transition. They are a guide, but you have to take responsibility to do the growth work involved. When you share the willingness to change with them, they are able to help you curate and create the changes that you wish to see in your life. They will have your back as you continue to evolve and grow into the potential new life role.