There are a number of reasons why people choose to get married. Some of these include falling in love, finding a soul mate and other such mushy stuff. This may not spell permanence for your relationship even if you do get married. It may be a completely practical and devoid of romance approach but consider realistic reasons to tie the knot. Here are eleven good reasons which you should consider getting married for.
“Why can’t you get anything right?”
“Are you stupid?”
“You are just dumb!”
“For once try and do this like I told you a hundred times before!”
Does this sound familiar? Are these statements that come hurtling at you regularly from your partner? If so, you may be in a toxic relationship. If you are shaking your head and saying, no but we love each other, you need to think about what your life is like right now. Compare it to what it was like in the past and if you see things have changed. Should you notice that indeed things are not as loving as they were, you need to accept the fact that your relationship has bottomed out and then deal with it.
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There is nothing quite as lonely as a heart that has loved and lost. It doesn’t matter if he was a cheating bastard, or an abusive despot. It doesn’t matter because you have spent a lot of time and emotions in a relationship that you really wanted to work out. For whatever reason the relationship failed, you are now nursing a broken heart. Now it is time to let go of all that hurt and misery. It is time to mend that heart.
Disconnect from the person in all fields of life both physical and virtual.
The last thing you need when you are trying to mend your broken heart is a daily reminder of the person who did the damage. Make sure that you clear out all the stuff that belongs to him and anything else that reminds you of him from your personal space. Disconnect from him on facebook, twitter, linkedin, and mark his email as spam! Make sure that you do not have to deal with reliving your time together in either the physical or the virtual world. Continue reading
When you marry your sweetheart, you end up marrying his entire family as well in the Indian context. This can be a good thing when you get so much love and support from an entire clan of people who accept your unconditionally and treat you like one of them just because you married one of the clan. At the same time it can be a bad thing when you get a whole bunch of relative strangers suddenly interested in all aspects of your so far private life.
You may have to deal with The financial expert Father in Law, the well meaning but interfering Mother in Law, the always needing a favour Sister in Law, and the “I can show you a better way to do that” Brother in Law. It can be enough to try a saint’s patience and God knows you are not a saint. So what do you do when your in-laws begin meddling in your family life? Well think about it as a battle campaign where you need to plan and strategize so that you are never taken unaware. Yes if you have been ambushed by your in-laws before, you know exactly what I am talking about avoiding. Continue reading
The bride is your best friend, and that is enough for you to make her last bridal shower one that she will never forget. The bridal shower is usually held in the month before the wedding and brings together all the close family and friends of the bride. There are usually a few snacks, some drinks and a light buffet meal accompanying the loads of gifts that the bride-to-be receives. Here’s how to put together an unforgettable bridal shower.
Who is the host at a bridal shower?
Typically the Maid or Matron of Honor is the primary host of the bridal shower. This is usually the bride’s best friend and will take on the job of organizing the event. She will be helped by other bridesmaids who have been chosen by the bride to be a part of her wedding. Whoever has the time and the resourcefulness to help is usually welcome. Sometimes the groom’s mother and sisters may also want to get involved in the organization of the event. The situation differs in each family.
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Ask any happily married couple and you will be told that there are always some problems to be resolved in the relationship. The key to being very much in love is resolving them.
Not tonight darling, I’ve got a headache!
There comes a time in every relationship where the initial amore wears off and you are just not that interested in making out. If this happens after you get married, you may convince yourself that the initial fizz has worn off and that’s all there is to it. This is where you are wrong. Without the passion and excitement in bed, the rest of the relationship can fall apart very quickly.
The romantic feelings that you felt for your spouse before marriage do still exist. You just need to work hard to rediscover them in the comfortable zone of your relationship. Dealing with a clash of desires is difficult and needs sensitive handling on both sides. Perhaps the easiest way to solve this problem is to sit down and communicate your needs to each other. Do this at a time when both of you are not tired and have time to spare. Have a cool headed discussion about what you want out of the relationship.
Once you have identified what each partner wants, work out viable solutions that are acceptable to both. If you are too tired after a whole day’s work, consider waking up early morning to do the deed. In case the romance is what turns you on, fix a weekly date at a comfortable time. It need not always be on the weekends, it can be whenever both partners find it convenient. The date itself could range from a long candlelit dinner or a quick burger together at lunch hour. Work out simple ways to keep the love alive with your partner. The effort you make will be appreciated and reciprocated in a loving relationship.
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Being in a relationship which is supportive and fulfilling takes time and effort on both sides. Developing intimacy is a skill which involves knowing just how much you can ask of your partner without offending them. In the initial stages you are generally on tender hooks because you have to establish the boundaries in your relationship. Once these basic guidelines are in place it becomes that much easier to interact comfortably with your loved one. Here are some relationship questions that you may want to ask your sweetheart in order to help establish those boundaries.
1) Why didn’t you call me after our date?
There are all kinds of rules made up about appropriate behavior after a first date. Some tell you to wait before you call, while others ask you to call right away. It is quite a challenge to obey all the rules and get the right reaction from your date. Personally I would suggest you not ask this question when they eventually do get the courage to call you. It can serve no purpose, and after all they did call. Continue reading