Dealing with Pre-Wedding Jitters

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You love your man and he loves you. The big day is round the corner and the very thought of the wedding has you hyperventilating. Your mind and your heart are in constant conflict about the upcoming nuptials. How can you get married to this man, you ask yourself. Is he really the one whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, says your brain while your heart sings with joy at the thought of doing just that. This is nothing new for brides to be, in fact nearly everyone has second thoughts and pre wedding jitters as the D-Day approaches.

It is natural for both the bride and the groom to experience these feelings and emotions before the wedding.  This is the reason why weddings get called off at the very last moment for no earthly reason. You don’t want that to happen to your wedding after all the hours you put in planning for its success. Do you? Here are a few ways to ensure that you deal effectively with these feelings that cause butterfly sensations in your stomach. Continue reading →

Keeping things interesting – Don’t lose the mystery

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Cayusa CC By via Flickr

In the beginning of any relationship everything is new and interesting. Any trivial detail about your mate can be fascinating. Finding out more about the love of your life is like a constantly unveiling mystery where you are excited to know what comes next. Unfortunately this initial stage of discovery does not last very long. After a while you know your mate almost as well as you know yourself. You can predict their reactions to situations as they arise and even complete their sentences. While its good news that you know your mate so well, it can somewhat diffuse the strong interest you felt in your mate initially. The trick here to keep things interesting is not to lose the mystery. Here’s what you can do.  Continue reading →

Tips for Introducing the In-laws

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Got engaged? Congrats, now it’s time to meet the parents and that is stressful enough. What’s worse? It’s when the parents- in-law are introduced to each other. All too often the parents of your beloved are total strangers to your own parents, even though you personally may have a more comfortable relationship with them.  It stands to reason that if your fiancé’s parents have not met yours they are going to be keen to meet them. It makes sense that they do so before the wedding. Before the rest of the family, on both sides descends on them.

Who calls who?

Weddings are times when traditions and etiquette come into play in a big way. In case your parents are sentimental about adhering to some traditions and customs you may like to tell your fiancé to inform the in-laws- to- be about this fact. Conventionally the parents of the groom are expected to contact the parents of the bride to set up this initial meeting. However these days it is becoming more common for the couple to set up an event to introduce their parents to each other. In case the parents have known each other as friends or acquaintances before you decided to get married, it is perfectly fine for the bride’s parents to call first and set up the meeting. It really doesn’t  matter who initiates the meeting as long as they all get together and talk.  Continue reading →

What to do when the happily ever after does not last – Dealing with a Divorce

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DrJohnBullas CC- BY via Flickr.

You had it all. A dream romance. A lavish wedding. A romantic honeymoon. A prolific career. A luxurious home. And then it all fell apart bringing with it the sadness and the guilt. The all consuming guilt which says you did not do enough to make your marriage work.  Divorce is not a tragedy, but staying in an unhappy marriage is. Living alone is not a tragedy, but your children absorbing fights with your spouse is. Marilyn Monroe once said, “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” Having been divorced twice she obviously knew what she was talking about.

No normal person gets married with the hope of getting divorced a couple of years down the line. However it is undeniable truth that statistically speaking we have more divorces taking place today than ever before in the past. It is difficult to analyze all the reasons why this trend is on the rise and that is a debate waiting to happen. The scope of that debate is not what we are looking at here. Here we focus on how one can deal with the devastating aftereffects of undergoing a divorce and how you should face the future. You will need to deal with the fall out of divorce on three levels – Emotional, Social and Financial.  Continue reading →

Planning a wedding budget

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401(K) 2013 CC- BY via Flickr

Congratulations you’re getting married! Now it is time to focus on the details of your wedding day. Every girl has a fantasy of just how her wedding will be conducted. The ceremonies, the dresses, the actual wedding and finally the reception are all planned out well in advance. The whole deal is a personal fairy tale which, unfortunately, you will have to pay for.

As economics rears its practical head amongst your rose colored dreams, you need to have a wedding budget to help you keep your fairytale alive, without sacrificing your entire bank balance. Mark out your heads of expenses. Consider the ones given here and add any personal ones that you may have to undertake. Then divide the lump sum amount you intend to spend on your wedding into these individual heads of expenditure.

Are you hiring a planner?

A professional wedding planner can save you severe stress over the wedding but can also work out more expensive than if you do it yourself. Consider your immediate family and friend circle. Is there someone who can take on the role of chief wedding planner and do a good job? Ask them to help you and save the fee that you would pay the wedding planner. If you have no one who can help you, then do some research on the wedding planners that your friend circle has employed. There’s always someone you know who has a married elder brother or sister or cousin who used a professional wedding planner for organizing their wedding. Meet them and get their opinion on whether the person hired did a good job or not. Then take your pick.  Continue reading →

How to pick your Prince from amongst the frogs

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The Frog Prince by Paul Meyerheim -1889

The Frog Prince by Paul Meyerheim -1889

It’s a pretty good time to be a girl these days. You are no longer expected to meekly submit to your parent’s choice of a groom. You are allowed to pick whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, a choice that many in our mother’s generation did not get. It is up to you to ensure that you pick a prince from among the many frogs croaking out there in the marriage pond.  Remember there are many frogs that you can kiss, but just one will turn into a Prince. This here is a guide that you can use to weed out the unwanted frogs.

Look for common ground:

Shared interests can go a long way in shaping a relationship into a strong marriage. Is there a particular activity you enjoy such as hiking, dancing, learning foreign languages, stamp collecting, rock climbing or even poetry writing? Now think of a place where you can meet a man who is interested in the same activity. Some of them will be glaringly obvious, while others you will have to think about a bit harder. Take a look at the situations given below to get an idea of what I’m talking about.  Continue reading →

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder; so bring out the beauty in you

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Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder it is often said. So it’s just right to make yourself look as beautiful as possible for your own satisfaction, and for others to admire. So here are some beauty tips that help bring out all that hidden beauty in you.

The first thing that people notice when they meet you is your face, your teeth and a nice smile. This is why it’s important that you make your teeth and smile the best possible as the best and first impression you give others is through your smile. You may have to make regular dental appointments to ensure your teeth are healthy, and if required, wear braces for straight teeth and whitening treatments so that your teeth give an attractive smile.

Too much of makeup can make you look worse than not wearing any makeup at all. So when you wear makeup, wear sufficient makeup to make yourself look attractive, and don’t overdo things. You have to get a naturally looking but attractive look with makeup on otherwise you only end up being branded a ‘cheap’ woman.  Continue reading →